There is a hand on the wheel of your life
and it isn't always yours.
Most of what drives our choices, our relationships, and our reactions happens beneath conscious awareness. This is an invitation to see it clearly, and take the wheel back.
See What's Really Driving You
You are not choosing as freely as it feels.
Underneath every relationship pattern, every reaction that feels bigger than the moment, every need you can't quite name, there is a wound quietly writing the script. It was written a long time ago, usually before you had words for what was happening to you.
Once it's written, it runs on its own. Not because you're broken, but because it was never meant to be permanent, it was meant to be found.
Your wounds create your needs. The specific things you hunger for, love, certainty, significance, were shaped by what went missing early on.
Your needs create your strategies. Some of those strategies serve you. Others quietly work against you, and you may not even see them as strategies at all.
Your strategies drive your life. Who you choose, how you love, what you tolerate, what you avoid, almost all of it traces back to a pattern you never consciously agreed to.
Filling Your Own Cup, A One Day Workshop
9 August 2026
to 4:00pm
Acland Park
Kate Sheppard Drive
Rolleston 7615
Program of the Day
Doors Open
Tea, coffee, and a chance to settle in before we begin at 10am.
Wounds and Needs, an Introduction
How our earliest wounds quietly create the needs we carry into adulthood.
Short break
Human Needs
The six basic human needs, and where you sit across all six right now.
Lunch break, please bring your own or arrange ahead of time
Personality Needs
The specific strategies each of us has built to try and meet our highest needs.
Short break
Day to Day, Tertiary Needs
The small daily habits and strategies that fill your cup or quietly empty it.
Integration and Closing Circle
Bringing the day together and closing as a group.
Is This the Right Course for Me?
Four quick questions. Answer honestly, there is no wrong result.
Questions and Answers
No previous experience is needed. This day is built to make sense whether this is your first time exploring your own patterns, or you have been doing this work for years. Everything is explained plainly, without jargon.
Sharing is always invited, never required. Several parts of the day are individual, silent reflection. Where group sharing happens, you can always choose to share with just one partner instead of the whole room, or simply pass.
That is normal, and you will not be left to sit with it alone. The day is paced with breaks, and support is available throughout if something feels bigger than expected. You are always welcome to step out and return whenever you are ready.
No. This is educational and reflective work, not therapy. If you are currently working with a therapist or counsellor, this can sit alongside that work well, but it is not a replacement for it.
Please bring a device, a phone or laptop works well, as some of the exercises use short interactive quizzes on Kajabi. If you prefer writing by hand, printed worksheets will also be provided for every activity, so you can work either way. Also bring a notebook and pen, a water bottle, your own lunch, and an open mind. A cushion or blanket is welcome if you would like extra comfort for the closing circle.
Absolutely. Questions are welcome throughout, not just at the end. This day is meant to be a genuine conversation, not a lecture.
Join Us for the Day
- Full day workshop, 10am to 4pm
- All four segments, Wounds and Needs, Human Needs, Personality Needs, and Tertiary Needs
- Tea and coffee throughout the day
- A small group setting with genuine space for questions
A tax invoice is available on request for professional development claims.
Making the unseen conscious puts you back in the driving seat.
This isn't about fixing yourself. It's about finally seeing the pattern clearly enough to choose something different, on purpose, for the first time.
Come and Learn With Me