Does this sound familiar?
You love your child more than anything.
And still, some days, you barely recognise yourself.
You react before you can catch yourself and then spend the rest of the day in shame.
You know all the right things to do. You just cannot seem to do them when it actually matters.
You are showing up but you are not really there. You are performing motherhood rather than living it.
You worry that your own childhood is showing up in how you parent, and you do not know how to stop it.
You are doing this largely alone, and the weight of it is enormous.
This is not a character flaw.
It is a nervous system under pressure,
carrying a story that was never fully tended to.
HELD was built for exactly this.
What HELD is
Not a parenting course.
A becoming.
HELD is a ten week online course, with live sessions for the first eight weeks, that meets you not as a problem to be solved, but as a mother with a story worth understanding. Each week builds on the last, taking you deeper into your own nervous system, your relationship with your child, and the patterns that have been running quietly in the background your whole life.
The image we return to throughout the course is a mountain. Each step is small and steady. Each week you climb a little higher. And by the time you reach Week 10, you will look back and see how far you have come, not through perfection, but through presence, repair, and the willingness to keep returning.
Pou
Your grounded, anchoring presence
HELD helps you become the steady post in your child’s world. Not rigid. Not perfect. Rooted. Present. Someone they can always find their way back to.
Mana
Your warm, wise authority
HELD helps you lead from dignity rather than fear. To hold boundaries not as walls, but as acts of love. To guide your child not by controlling them, but by knowing yourself.
Becoming With
The journey you share
HELD is not about becoming a better mother. It is about becoming more fully yourself, so that what your child receives is not a performance of love, but the real thing.
Founders price $169 for all eight weeks, paid in full.
Prefer to pay weekly? Or $19 a week for 10 weeks
For the first 20 mothers only.
This live round runs once. Every session is recorded for the duration of the course.
What is inside
Ten weeks.
One step at a time.
Each week includes an audio guide, embodied practice, somatic work, journal workbook, gentle reminder, and closing blessing.
How the ten weeks run
Weeks 1 to 8 are live. Fridays from 23 October to 11 December, 12pm to 1.30pm NZ time. The last 30 minutes are an optional extra for sharing and questions. Every session is recorded for the duration of the course.
Weeks 9 and 10 are at your own pace. Move through them over the holidays whenever it suits you.
After Christmas we come back together for a live catch up and closing celebration.
Live
Being Held
Understanding your nervous system and what regulation actually means. Not control. Return.
Live
Being Known
Attunement, empathy, and what it means to truly see and be seen by your child.
Live
The Mother’s Story
Understanding how your own history shows up in how you parent, and what to do with that understanding.
Live
Autonomy and Boundaries
Leading from Mana. Holding limits that are warm and firm, not rigid or fearful.
Live
Reparenting Yourself
Tending to the younger version of you still carrying what was never given. Giving yourself what you needed.
Live
Emotional Co Regulation
What co regulation actually looks like in practice and how to offer it without losing yourself.
Live
Presence Over Performance
The difference between showing up and truly being there. What your child actually needs from you.
Live
Play, Presence and Shared Joy
Play as medicine. Manaakitanga as a way of being. The sacred ordinary moments of connection.
Self paced
Rituals and Rhythm
Building the daily rhythms and rituals that hold your child and sustain you both.
Self paced
Held and Whole
A closing ceremony. A blessing. A celebration of the mountain you have climbed and the mother you are becoming.
Live
Closing celebration after Christmas
A catch up session after Christmas to come back together, celebrate the mountain you have climbed, and ask your questions.
Also included
Fridge cards to keep your weekly anchor visible
11 deep dive resources for after the course, for what still feels hard
A personalised quiz to guide you to the right resource after the course
Lifetime access to all course materials
Every live session recorded for the duration of the course
Is HELD right for you?
Take the two minute quiz
Answer five honest questions and find out whether HELD is the right fit for where you are right now.
Donna Stichbury
The Relationship Facilitator
About Donna
I built this course because I needed it too.
I am Donna Stichbury. An attachment mentor, senior Interplay facilitator, early childhood education teacher, learning disabilities nurse, and someone who has spent ten years in deep study of respectful, relationship based care and Dance with Me in the Heart. I am also a mother, a wife, a friend, and simply, honestly, me.
New this year: On 29 September 2026 I graduated as a PIKLER® Pedagogue, after completing my training in Budapest.
I did not come to this work from a clinical training. I came to it through living it, studying it, being changed by it over many years. Through sitting with brilliant thinkers and ancient wisdom traditions. Through my own journey as a mother navigating exactly what you are navigating now.
For over a decade I have worked with mothers, families, and children in the tender space where relationship lives. And throughout all of that work one thing has become clear to me: mothers are not failing. They are carrying too much, with too little support, and almost no space to understand their own story.
HELD is the course I wished had existed when I needed it most. It is built from everything I have learned, everything I have studied, and everything I believe about what mothers and children truly need from one another.
Mauri Aroha. 🌿
We are not asking you to become someone new. We are inviting you to remember who you have always been.
A mother who knows how to be present. A woman who knows how to return. A human being whose capacity for love is already whole.
Enrol in HELD
Choose the option that works for you
Founders pricing is available for the first 20 mothers only. Once those places are filled, full price applies.
This live round runs once. Live sessions start Friday 23 October, 12pm to 1.30pm NZ time.
Full price once Founders places are filled
$397
Pay once
$47 pw
10 weekly payments
Everything included in HELD
Live sessions for weeks 1 to 8, Fridays from 23 October, 12pm to 1.30pm NZ time, all recorded for the duration of the course
Weeks 9 and 10 at your own pace, then a live closing celebration after Christmas
Ten weeks of audio guides, embodied practices, somatic work, journal workbooks, gentle reminders and closing blessings
Weekly handouts and downloadable fridge cards
11 deep dive resources for after the course, for what still feels hard
A personalised quiz to guide you to the right resource after the course
Lifetime access to all course materials
Questions
You might be wondering
How does the live round work?
Weeks 1 to 8 are live on Fridays from 23 October to 11 December, 12pm to 1.30pm NZ time, and the last 30 minutes are an optional extra for sharing and questions. Every session is recorded for the duration of the course. Weeks 9 and 10 you move through at your own pace over the holidays, and after Christmas we come back together for a live catch up and closing celebration. This live round runs once.
What if I cannot make the live sessions, or I live outside New Zealand?
Every live session is recorded for the duration of the course, so you can watch whenever it suits you. Sessions are Friday 12pm to 1.30pm NZ time, so a time zone converter will show you when that falls where you live.
My child is younger than two or older than twelve. Is HELD still relevant?
HELD is written for mothers of children aged two to twelve. The principles in HELD, nervous system regulation, repair, attunement, presence, apply across all ages and stages. Many mothers find the work especially powerful when their child is at an age that echoes something from their own story. If you are unsure, book a free chat and we will talk it through.
How much time does each week require?
Each week is designed to be sustainable inside a real and busy life. You will need roughly two to three hours spread across the week for the audio, embodied practice, and journal work. The practices are designed to weave into daily life rather than requiring a separate window of time. In weeks 1 to 8 there is also the live session on Friday, which is recorded if you cannot be there.
Do I need any prior knowledge of nervous system or attachment work?
None at all. HELD is written in plain, warm language with no jargon. Whether you are entirely new to this territory or you have done years of personal work, the course meets you at your level and takes you deeper.
What if I fall behind or miss a week?
You have lifetime access to all the course materials, and there is no deadline. You can move at your own pace, return to weeks that felt significant, and take as long as you need. The live session recordings are available for the duration of the course.
What is Founders pricing?
Founders are the first 20 mothers to join a new course. You help shape HELD with your honest feedback about what worked and what could be better, and in return you receive the course at a special price.
Can I have personal support alongside the course?
Yes. Donna offers 1:1 sessions that can run in parallel with HELD. You can book a free chat to talk about that at any time.
I am not sure HELD is right for me. What should I do?
Book a free chat with Donna. There is no pressure and no obligation. It is simply a conversation to help you work out whether this is the right fit for where you are right now.
Book a free chat
May you feel the strength of every step you have taken.
Small, steady, and mindful.
Your child does not need a perfect mother. They need you, present, returning, and willing to climb the mountain one step at a time. HELD will walk beside you for every one of those steps.
Founders pricing for the first 20 mothers only.
Live sessions start Friday 23 October, 12pm to 1.30pm NZ time, and every session is recorded for the duration of the course.
Mauri Aroha. 🌿
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