InsideOUT: A Deep Dive into Healing Attachment & Core Wounds
Relational Flow Client Guide
Donna Stichbury
The Relationship Facilitator  ·  PIKLER® PEDAGOGUE
InsideOUT Framework

A Deep Dive into Healing Attachment & Core Wounds

Follow your own unique golden thread

InsideOUT mentoring with Donna Stichbury

Healing attachment wounds, calming your nervous system and building secure relationships from the inside out.

Before you begin

Healing is not a staircase you climb once and finish. It moves more like a spiral. You will meet these same steps again and again as you grow, each time with a little more capacity and a little less charge. If you find yourself back at Step 1 after months of steady progress, that is not failure. That is the nervous system doing exactly what it is designed to do.

Key Principle

InsideOUT integrates mind, body and relational dynamics in a structured yet personalised process. Growth unfolds in cycles, not straight lines. As capacity expands, deeper wounds emerge, inviting renewed integration. True security develops through progressive alignment across internal work, shadow integration, somatic regulation and relational practice.

How I work

1

Safety comes first. We start with a Zoom coffee chat where you can ask all your questions.

2

We work in blocks. Many people find relief, get back to life, and return later for deeper levels.

3

You become your own mentor. I give you the skills to do this yourself, without needing constant sessions.

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You do not walk through these steps once. You spiral through them, again and again, at deeper layers.

The Steps

Safety & Orientation

Prep for healing. Creating a foundation of safety before exploring triggers or wounds. Essential for highly dysregulated clients.

Often revisited

Being Triggered & Understanding Core Wounds

Recognising triggers as nervous system signals, not personal flaws.

Often revisited

Healing Core Wounds

Losing emotional charge. Reducing the grip of core wounds on your nervous system.

Deepens over time

Nervous System Regulation

Preparing the body to heal. Only a regulated nervous system can process wounds safely.

Ongoing foundation

Meeting Your Own Needs

Stepping out of unconsciously relying on others to fill gaps. Reduces triggers and reactivity.

Steady practice

Knowing Attachment Style & Traits

Self awareness reduces judgment, shame and guilt. It lays the groundwork for relational integration.

Revisited as insight grows

Integration

Internal and relational security. Bringing internal work into relational life for full integration.

Ongoing thread

Communication & Expressing Needs

Applying internal security outward. Uncovers hidden wounds.

Variable intensity

Boundaries & Complex Needs

Expanding relational security by navigating complexity.

Variable intensity

Shadow Work

Integrating suppressed or disowned parts of self.

Emerges as capacity grows

Somatic Work

Releasing stuck energy, regulating the nervous system, and supporting sustainable integration.

Ongoing thread

Maintenance & Relapse Prevention

Healing is cyclical. Triggers will return, and that return is part of the process, not a departure from it.

Lifelong practice

What people say

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Let's start with a coffee chat

Before we work together, I invite you to book a Zoom coffee chat. It is your chance to ask all your questions, and it matters because safety needs to be established before we begin. Everything else in this guide is built on that foundation.

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