A six week course with Donna Stichbury

Why Can’t We Just Talk?

For the conversations that keep going wrong with the people you love

You are not bad at relationships.
You were never given the tools.

Why Can’t We Just Talk? is a six week journey into the patterns that run our closest relationships, and the practical words and tools to do something different in a real conversation, with a real person, when everything in you wants to react. Not a script. A shift.

For anyone with a relationship that matters and sometimes goes wrong. Partners, parents, adult children, close friends.

Founders pricing for the first 20 places only.

A six week course you work through at your own pace.

Founders are the people who help shape the course with their honest feedback.

Donna Stichbury

The Relationship Facilitator

PIKLER® PEDAGOGUE

Follow your own unique golden thread

The conversation starts reasonably and ends in an argument you have had before.

You say the thing. They hear something completely different.

You go quiet and wait for them to notice. They do not notice.

You bring it up. They shut down. You feel more alone than if you had said nothing.

The same issue keeps returning, and it is wearing you both down.

See the pattern

Why we argue about the dishwasher when we are really arguing about something else entirely, and the patterns most of us repeat without knowing why.

Say what you need

A practical formula for expressing what you feel and what you need in a way the other person can actually receive.

Change it before it begins

The wound preface, the small thing that changes a conversation before it even starts, and what to do when the old cycle returns.

Self paced

The six week course

Six weeks of material you move through in your own time, in a way that fits a real and busy life.

Real life

Applied, not theoretical

Week five is real applied work drawn from real mentoring sessions, so you can see what this looks like when someone is genuinely trying.

Founders

Twenty Founders places

My way of giving back to the community. I believe courses need to be listened to, so Founders share honest feedback that helps shape the course around the people taking it.

Your facilitator

I built this course because I kept seeing the same thing.

I am Donna Stichbury, a relationship facilitator and attachment mentor. I have spent two decades working alongside real people in real relationships. I know where the stuckness lives, and I know what it takes to shift it. I know because I have done this work myself. I am a recovering fearful avoidant, and I bring that lived experience into everything I teach.

In my 1:1 work I kept meeting people who understood themselves beautifully in our sessions, and then went home and had the same conversation again. Why Can’t We Just Talk? is the most complete thing I have ever created on communication. It grew from thousands of hours of sitting with people who were genuinely trying, and watching what made the difference.

New this year: on 29 September 2026 I graduated as a PIKLER® Pedagogue, after completing my training in Budapest.

Mauri Aroha. 🌿

NZD $247

Pay once, or six weekly payments of $47

Includes the full six week self paced course.

NZD $549

Pay once, or six weekly payments of $92

Includes the full six week self paced course and three 1:1 sessions with Donna, on your own or with your partner or someone who matters to you.

NZD $299

Pay once, or six weekly payments of $50

Full access to the six week course and all materials. Available once Founders places have been filled.

For couples

Take us through it together

$150 per hour, course fee dropped

I take the two of you through the whole course, one part at a time, focused on your relationship. You pay my hourly rate and the course is included. I open the next part each time you book. Book and pay a week out, and I will release the video so you have time to take it in. Then we go over it together.

For groups

Learn it together in a group

Up to 10 people

Parents, teachers, or colleagues who would like to go through the course together with me. Email me and we will arrange it around your group, or book a free chat and we can talk it through.

How does the course work?

It is a six week self paced course. Move through it week by week, or slow down where something feels tender. You can return to any week whenever you need it.

Is this therapy?

No. This is educational work. It is deep, and it may stir things that feel significant. That is normal. But it is not a substitute for therapy or clinical support. If you are in a difficult season, I encourage you to hold both.

Do I need to be in a relationship to benefit?

No. These patterns show up in every close relationship, with partners, parents, adult children and close friends. If you have any relationship that matters to you and sometimes goes wrong, this course is relevant.

Do I need any prior knowledge of attachment work?

None at all. If you are brand new to this territory, the course meets you where you are. If you have done years of personal work, it takes you into the part that is hardest, which is using it in a real conversation.

What is Founders pricing?

Founders pricing is my way of giving back to the community. I believe courses need to be listened to, so that they meet the needs of the people taking them. Founders are the first 20 people to join, and in return for a special price, you share your honest feedback about what worked and what could be better.

Can I share the course with someone else?

The course is licensed for your personal use. If someone in your life needs this, the kindest thing you can do is direct them here so they can join in their own right.

What is the scope of practice?

My full scope of practice declaration is available at donnastichbury.com/declaration.

I am not sure this is right for me. What should I do?

Book a free chat with me. There is no pressure and no obligation. It is simply a conversation to help you work out whether this is the right fit for where you are right now.