Tuesdays 6.30 to 8.00pm | 11 August to 15 September 2026 | 20 places only | NZD $247
Why this course exists
Most of us were never taught how to communicate. Not really. We picked up habits from the people around us, and we have been repeating them ever since in the relationships that matter most to us.
This course is an invitation to do something different.
Does any of this sound familiar?
You love this person. You want things to be different. But every time you try to have the conversation that matters, something goes wrong.
The conversation starts reasonably and ends in an argument you have had before.
You say the thing. They hear something completely different.
You go quiet and wait for them to notice. They do not notice.
You bring it up. They shut down. You feel more alone than if you had said nothing.
The same issue keeps returning. It is wearing you both down.
You are not bad at relationships. You are someone who was never given the tools. This course is the beginning of that.
Six weeks together
What we explore
Week one The six patterns keeping us stuck
Why we argue about the dishwasher when we are really arguing about something else entirely. The patterns most of us repeat without knowing why.
Week two Saying what you actually need
A practical formula for expressing what you feel and what you need in a way the other person can actually receive.
Week three The wounds underneath the cycle
Why the same argument keeps coming back. The core wounds that drive behaviour, in yourself and in the people you love.
Week four Communicating without activating wounds
The wound preface. The thing that changes a conversation before it even begins.
Week five Seeing it in real life
Real applied work drawn from real mentoring sessions. What this looks like when someone is genuinely trying.
Week six The work starts now
A closing session that does not wrap things up neatly. Because real relational work never does. What to do when the cycle returns.
Your facilitator
Donna Stichbury
Relationship Facilitator and Attachment Mentor
I have spent two decades working alongside real people in real relationships. I know where the stuckness lives. I know what it takes to shift it. And I know because I have done this work myself. I am a recovering fearful avoidant, and I bring that lived experience into everything I teach.
Why Can't We Just Talk? is the most complete thing I have ever created on communication. It grew from thousands of hours of sitting with people who were genuinely trying, and watching what made the difference.
I built it because I kept seeing the same thing in my 1:1 work. People who understood themselves beautifully in our sessions, and then went home and had the same conversation again. This course is the bridge.
Information is not enough. Understanding your patterns in theory is a very different thing from being able to use that knowledge in the heat of a real moment, with a real person, when everything in you wants to react. This course is the bridge between knowing and living it differently.
A Founders invitation
This course is opening first to a small group of people who have already been part of this work in some way. Twenty Founders places, offered before the course opens publicly.
As a Founder you receive the full six week self-paced course and six live Tuesday evening sessions with me where we go deep into the material together as a small group. Every session is recorded so it is yours to keep even if life gets in the way on a particular night.
We begin Tuesday 11 August and close Tuesday 15 September. I fly to Budapest the following morning to defend my Pikler thesis. So that final session will carry something. I will show up for it completely.
Founders price
NZD $247
or six weekly payments of $47
Includes six live Tuesday evening sessions and all recordings.
Twenty places only. Once those places are filled this offer closes.
Full price
NZD $497
or six weekly payments of $97
Full access to the six week self-paced course and all materials. Available once Founders places have been filled.
Why Can't We Just Talk?
Is this course right for you?
Six honest questions. No right or wrong answers.
Question 1 of 6
Is there a relationship in your life where the same argument keeps coming back, no matter how many times you have tried to resolve it?
Question 2 of 6
When something is hurting you in a relationship, how easy is it to say what you actually need?
Question 3 of 6
Do you ever find yourself reacting in a way that surprises even you, and later wondering where that came from?
Question 4 of 6
When a difficult conversation goes wrong, do you ever feel like the other person heard something completely different from what you said?
Question 5 of 6
Are you willing to look honestly at your own patterns, not just what the other person is doing?
Question 6 of 6
What feels most true about where you are right now?
Your result
This course was made for where you are right now.
You are not here by accident. The patterns you are living inside, the conversations that keep going wrong, the reactions that surprise even you. All of it is pointing to something that this course addresses directly.
Why Can't We Just Talk? will give you the understanding and the tools to begin doing something genuinely different. Not overnight. Not perfectly. But in the real conversations you are already having with the real people in your life.
The Founders places are open now. Twenty places only, before this opens to the public.
Your result
This course will meet you where you are.
You do not need to be in crisis to benefit from this work. You do not need the relationship to be falling apart. You just need a genuine willingness to look honestly at what is happening and try something different.
The skills in this course are ones you will use for the rest of your life, in every close relationship you have. Coming to it before things are at their worst is not early. It is wise.
If something in you is being pulled toward this, that pull is worth listening to.
Your result
The timing may not be quite right, and that is okay.
This course asks something real of you. It is not a passive listen. It involves looking honestly at your own patterns, sitting with things that may feel tender, and trying something new in real conversations with real people.
If that does not feel right for where you are right now, that is worth honouring. The course will still be here when you are ready.
If you would like to have a conversation about whether this is the right fit, I offer an initial chat at no cost.
A few questions
What if I cannot make the live Tuesday sessions?
Every session is recorded and added to your course. You will not miss out on the content. The live sessions are where the real conversation happens, but the recordings carry everything.
Is this therapy?
No. This is educational work. It is deep, and it may stir things that feel significant. That is normal. But it is not a substitute for therapy or clinical support. If you are in a difficult season, I encourage you to hold both.
Do I need to be in a relationship to benefit?
No. These patterns show up in every close relationship, with partners, parents, adult children, close friends. If you have any relationship that matters to you and sometimes goes wrong, this course is relevant.
What is the scope of practice?
My full scope of practice declaration is available at donnastichbury.com/declaration.
Can I share the course with someone else?
The course is licensed for your personal use. If someone in your life needs this, the kindest thing you can do is direct them here so they can join in their own right.
You were never broken.
You were someone who had not yet learned a different way.
Now you have the beginning of that.
Join as a Founder NZD $247Or enrol at full price NZD $497
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